
My Take Tuesday: Eighteen Months
Eighteen months.
That’s a long time for a father.
Long enough for seasons to turn twice. Long enough for reindeer calves to be born, weaned and reach adulthood. Long enough for antlers to grow, harden, and fall. Long enough for a house to feel quieter than you ever imagined it could.
Eighteen months ago, I hugged a 19-year-old girl goodbye.
She was brave, but she was still my girl. Still figuring out her place in the world. Still with a little uncertainty behind her confidence. Still tethered to home in ways she probably didn’t even realize.
And then she left.
She left comfort.
She left familiarity.
She left the predictable rhythm of life at that age.
She stepped into the unknown.
As a father, you prepare your children to go — but you’re never quite prepared for the going.
There were phone calls that ended too quickly. Emails that carried more strength than I expected. Weeks when I could feel the stretch of distance more than usual. I missed her laugh. I missed her commentary on life. I just simply missed her presence.
It is a peculiar ache — being proud and lonely at the same time.
A couple of weeks ago, I flew to Owasso, Oklahoma to have lunch with her. Just lunch. A few hours in the middle of her day. I was able to catch a glimpse of her life for the past year and a half.
When I saw her walking toward me, something caught in my throat.
She stood taller.
Her eyes were steadier.
Her smile — still the same beautiful smile — carried something new behind it. Depth. Experience. Confidence.
She left as a young 19-year-old girl.
In just two weeks, she will return to Utah a confident, purpose-driven woman — refined by service, strengthened by her faith, and sure of who she is.
There is something transformative about serving something larger than yourself. About facing rejection. About loving strangers until they become family. About learning discipline when no one is watching. About choosing to push yourself when it would be easier to choose comfort.
I saw it in the way she spoke. In the way she listened. In the way she carries herself now.
Growth doesn’t happen in ease. It happens in stretching.
And she has stretched.
As a veterinarian, I talk often about development — how muscle strengthens under resistance, how bone remodels under stress, how living things adapt when challenged. I suppose the same is true of the human spirit.
Distance has refined her.
Service has shaped her.
And time has revealed the woman she was always becoming.
It is hard to have her gone for so long.
There is no pretending otherwise.
But if these eighteen months have done anything, they have reminded me of something important: we don’t raise children to keep them. We raise them to become.
And she is becoming something remarkable.
My daughter, I am so proud of you.
Proud of your courage.
Proud of your resilience.
Proud of the way you have chosen growth over ease.
Eighteen months has sure passed slowly.
But watching who you have become?
Worth every single day.
And that is My Take.
N. Isaac Bott, DVM











